How One Blogger Found Encouragement in Difficult Times

Our new bloggers series continues with Melissa, who started生活在等待.

Her blog serves as a resource for those waiting for something in their lives, whether it’s a job, spouse, home or something else.

一个博客如何变成一个痛苦的情况变成一个改变生活的博客 Melissa discovered you can still live life during that time of waiting for something your heart desperately desires.

In Melissa’s case, she and her husband were waiting for a family due to infertility. It’s a painful topic to talk about, but Melissa felt like it was her calling to share her story.

博客对她的旅程,等待带来的快乐了她的生活。她想继续鼓励人们经历困难时期。

First-year blogging highlights:

  • StartedThe Wait List有客人联系others who were also waiting
  • Selected as recipient of ProBlogger scholarship to further the blog’s reach
  • Generated cycle of encouragement: live life to the fullest, and give back to others

Melissa的博客提示:

  • 在完美进度
  • Celebrate your wins

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达伦:欢迎来到ProBlogger播客的节目273。yabo娱乐亚博娱乐我的名字叫达伦·罗斯和我的博客后面www.mkt-21.com,网站和播客帮助你启动,yabo娱乐亚博娱乐惊人的博客,将改变你的读者的生活有帮助,也希望能够改变你的生活,也无论是在什么给你个人,也希望能有些收入。您可以了解更多关于我们在ProBlogger做,在www.mkt-21.comyabo娱乐找到我们的课程。

请讲of courses, today we do continue our Start A Blog story series where we’re featuring stories from bloggers in their first year of blogging. There are all these bloggers who’ve been throughout Start A Blog course and many of them participated in our International Start A Blog Day last February. We’ve got the second iteration of that event coming up on the 7th of February this year.

We’re running these stories to try and inspire as many people as possible to start a blog and be a part of that process. You can join in the fun of International Start A Blog Day and get a free course to help you set up a blog in that time over at www.mkt-21.com/startablog.

今天的故事是从梅丽莎。她有一个被称为生活在等待博客。我喜欢这个博客的主题,这是的,我想今天分享她的故事的原因之一。我要链接到她的博客今天是livinginthewait.com上我们的节目笔记。还有今天的节目完整记录和一些进一步的听力,如果你想进入大的主题,她谈到之一。您可以在www.mkt-21.com/podcast/273找到展会的笔记yabo娱乐今天。亚博娱乐我现在要去让梅丽莎谈吧,我会回来,在年底刚刚拉出几个主题,我爱她在什么样的股票。

Melissa: My name is Melissa. I started the blog called Living In the Wait and the URL is livinginthewait.com. What my blog is about is it’s a resource for those who are basically trying to live in the wait. Whether you’re waiting for a family, job, spouse, we all wait for something in our lives. For my husband and I, that wait happened to be infertility.

Why I started my blog was based upon our own personal experience. For over three years, my husband and I have been going through infertility. Something that I never imagined or of course, who would want something like that to go through? But while we were in that process, I began asking myself this question. I said, “How am I supposed to keep living in the wait? How do I keep living every month when I’m continually disappointed? How do I keep living my life? How do I live in the wait?”

That’s really where the whole concept and idea behind Living In The Wait began, where I wanted to be a source for others who are going through a wait and providing them encouragement, support, a community, resources, so they knew that while you are waiting for something in your life that your heart just desperately desires, that you can still live during that time. That’s what I had to learn and that’s also what I wanted to share with others, as well to be a resource for them.

我开始我的博客。我的第一篇文章是2月4日of 2018 and as I mentioned, really the whole goal with that is just to be a resource, support, encouragement for those going through some sort of wait. We all wait for something. Our wait just happened to be infertility. During that time, I really noticed a lack of resources, information, support available for people going through infertility and I wanted to do something about that. I knew that I needed that for our journey and I just was surprised that it wasn’t made available to us readily in my community. I’ve noticed that it’s a topic that is hard to talk about and I think that’s part of the reason people maybe don’t share as much. I knew that it was something that God was leading me to do, was to share my story.

I was just amazed as soon as we started sharing ours, how many people stepped up and shared their story as well. Through that, just felt so much community of other people from around the world experiencing the wait, the same wait that my husband and I were going though and how that’s all what we wanted. We all wanted those resources and support, community, just to gather around us to help us during that time because going through something like that, like I said, the resources for that were very limited. How do you go through something? How do you handle those emotions? The grief, the disappointment every month, how are you prepared to do that?

That’s what I wanted to do with Living In The Wait. I still have a long way to go but that’s really kind of my goal and objective is to be that resource to people when they are going through talk a lot about infertility, but we all wait for something. I feel like those tips and the articles that I’ve written are things that do apply for anybody, whatever their type of wait may be.

这真的是我与这个目标。我远大的梦想,我想你可以说是继续拥有这个博客。它已经这么多的乐趣。我彻底地享有写博客。我决不会想到做这样的事情,但我们的旅程,我们的等待真的只是败露的东西,我认为这是永远存在的。我一直喜欢写作。我一直轴颈我年轻的时候,它只是一种带来了一圈全部回来了。它一直是我一直非常享受。

我希望继续为这个博客了。我想让它继续成长。我希望它是可供人们了解更多信息。我想继续只是鼓励人们。我觉得这样的东西,我们需要这么多与这些资源和实用信息,帮助我们通过当我们正在等待着什么的那些困难的时候得到的,我们如何保持住一起。yabo娱乐国际这是可能的,这就是我希望人们知道的是,你仍然可以活的,而你在等待就是。这些欲望仍然会在那里,但你仍然可以过生活发挥到淋漓尽致。

我和我丈夫刚刚通过的态度,自从开始这个博客。It has been a game-changer for us where yes, we’re disappointed every month, we find out that we’re not pregnant but we have been able to just live life to the fullest by doing things that we enjoy and also giving back and being generous to other people as well. This has been so much fun blogging. That’s kind of the story of why I started Living In The Wait. Kind of some of the dreams that had end goals and objectives that I’ve wanted as well with this blog.

Just a couple of highlights from my first year that I wanted to share. One of the things I did was I started my blog in February but in April, I started a monthly series called The Wait List. Basically, it features guest host from people who, you guessed it, are all waiting. As I said, we all wait for things in our lives. I wanted to feature these stories of other people to provide hope and encouragement for others who are going through their wait and basically allow them to see those people and see how they were able to live in their wait.

I think when you’re able to connect to someone that you know, that you can see them getting through a tough situation, it brings you hope. It reminds you that this is something that I can do as well. That has been one of the most powerful things I have done with my blog is The Wait List. It has been one of the most popular posts that I do every month as well.

What’s so neat with that is just how it’s been able to help further the reach of Living In The Wait because there’s only so many people I can reach. But when these other people who are being featured put that information out there and they share to their social media sites, that’s another way I have been able to get that reach spread more is other people read and they find out what Living In The Wait is and what it means.

It’s been so much fun to hear other people’s stories. I love meeting people and that’s what I enjoy the most about The Wait List is I get to connect with them, share their story, and every one of them has just brought so much encouragement to me so I know it’s brought a lot for other people as well who are going through that. That’s been one of the big highlights that we had for Living In The Wait.

当我刚开始我的博客,这是围绕国际启动A的时间博客节,我感到非常惊讶,幸好选择了ProBlogger奖学金之一。yabo娱乐这是一个巨大的惊喜,真正把事情上非常积极,我开始我的博客。我觉得有很多的自我怀疑,有时,当您尝试启动一个博客,你想知道,“有什么事我真的应该怎么办?难道我真的有很多的价值,带来了什么?”这些都是问题,当我开始这个我有经验。

当我收到了奖学金,这只是一个对我来说迹象,这一点是我应该做的,这是很大的。我能得到只是我的信息更多,撞上一个大范围。对于这一点,我真的很感激ProBlogger和他们做了什么,对提供这一yabo娱乐点,只是真的有共同目标只是支持其他博客。这真棒成为这个社区的一部分,因为我真的觉得这真的互相支持,并希望看到对方取得成功,这是我喜欢成为的一部分。

Also, for any other people who are interested in blogging, like I said, this wasn’t something that I really would have thought of doing myself but through our experience with infertility, I just really felt that nudge that this was something I should be doing, was starting a blog, sharing our story, and encouraging other people through their wait. Through that it includes me. That’s what so neat about starting a blog. It’s definitely very therapeutic for the person that’s writing it but other people when they read it, it’s just like this cycle of encouragement that comes back to you.

我学到几建议that I would like to share. The main one is progress over perfection. I’m a perfectionist and there have been so many times when I was writing a post or I was trying to decide about a giveaway or questions to ask to my community. There was so much self-doubt and so many times that would stop me from doing things. I was so concerned about being perfect with the information I was sharing that it would stop me.

I finally got to the point where I was just like, “You know what? I’m tired of this. I know I have value to provide and I’m going to share it.” Yes, there’s times where maybe I wished I would have done something different but that’s where we learn and that’s where it’s so important to go out there and just do that progress, make that progress, do it scared, and know that it might not be perfect, but sometimes, I feel those posts were maybe the ones that people enjoy the most because you’re so vulnerable and genuine with people. So, progress over perfection.

第二个我想分享的是庆祝你的胜利。总是有更多,你可以做的。总有一个更好的职位或更好的方式来写东西。总有你想读你的博客更多的人。不过,这里的交易。庆祝正在读您的博客的人。庆祝你没有做这个职位的事实。庆祝这个职位也许你在它更加脆弱。庆祝你的胜利,因为这些都是正在发生的事情,让你去。

达伦:非常感谢,梅利莎,与我们分享您的故事和博客。我喜欢这个博客的话题。It does come out of a painful experience the starting of this blog but this is a theme that I’ve noticed over the years is that many of the blogs that have the biggest impact upon their readers actually start out of these tough situations or these hard experiences that the bloggers have themselves. A painful experience can actually be a life-giving thing for both the person themselves going through that experience but also many other people who can relate to that.

The topic of waiting is something that even as Melissa was talking, I can think of times in my own life when I was waiting in different areas and it’s something that I think many people will be able to relate to. I want to celebrate this topic and say, “Well done, Melissa, and your hubby, I’m not sure what his name was, for starting that blog.”

我在这里梅丽莎vulnerably共享爱的插图和导致脆弱的反应在她的读者也是如此。这件事情我已经谈过无数次历年来的是,如果你想从你的读者一个特定的反应,你需要带头的方式,将引起一种反应的博客。这是一个伟大的例证。

I think I talked in episode 263 about vulnerability and how, when I’ve been vulnerable with my readers and listeners that, often I see that come back to me in the comments, in he messages, in the emails, in the interactions that listeners have. So, great listen there. To put yourself out there and to be willing to go into some of those more painful parts of your life and just see what happens as a result of that.

我也很喜欢的话题,梅丽莎就讲到这儿的是,她不只是思考的话题。她实际上是在思考的需要,她的读者的情况。她不只是在谈论不孕不育,但她实际上是在谈论等待。这本来是可能的她刚开始不育的博客,并会一直做一件伟大的事情。我敢肯定,这将已经帮助了很多人,但她其实想一点点的盒子外侧并延伸到这一点写谁正在等待的人。

我认为这是扩大的话题,给她不只是一个话题谈论,或许扩大了观众,以及一个有趣的方式。我想这也是另一种方式去思考你的博客的主题,来定位你的博客一个非常好的例证。每月系列等待列表,再次辉煌的战略和它种涉及到我们在最后一集听到。最后一集,我们的博客被采访人,导致她的博客的增长。这也是在设有别人的故事,客人作家将有助于双方扩大主题分成不同的区域,而且还拓宽了观众以及因为那些作家都有自己的网络,显然是共享到该网络已帮助成长Melissa’s blog as well.

我只是喜欢梅丽莎真的显然有她的读心术。她想改变自己的生活中一些具体的方式。通过的情况下帮助他们,帮助他们感觉他们不是唯一的一个。大话题。真正伟大的秘诀,以及围绕进步为完美。我们已经在系列已经听说了这一点。不要让完美的保持你真正发布内容备份,无法启动该博客。

然后,最后一点她提出,要庆祝你的胜利。我真的很喜欢这一点。她那种bravefully提到它有,但我想了很多博客,在其博客初期,重点等读者的关注,他们还没有。我想了不少好东西来时,你不专注于你还没有,但要专注于你已经完成的读者阅读。

你可能只有10层的读者你的博客。你甚至可能没有那么多。您可能有三个,其中一人可能是你的妈妈。但专注于你已经拥有。庆祝这两个或三个,或10人,因为每一个这些人都有自己的网络。如果您为他们服务,如果你爱他们,他们则流传着一句话。这些庆祝胜利。专注于你所拥有的,不只是在你没有,我希望好的东西在你的博客,以及为你而来。

Thanks so much, Melissa. Again, you can find her blog at livinginthewait.com. You can find our show notes with a full transcription of today’s show as well. Another episode you might want to listen to on our show notes today at www.mkt-21.com/podcast/273. Also, the episode that you might want to dig into a little bit, I kind of mentioned a little bit earlier is episode 263 where I talked about vulnerability. I give an example of my own vulnerability and the good things that happened when I put my pain and confusion out there for people. It’s a little bit more personal but I hope that you find something good out of that as well. I’d love to hear your examples of when you’ve been vulnerable with your readers as well.

Don’t forget to check out our Start A Blog course at www.mkt-21.com/start-a-blog. If you are interested in getting a blog up and running in a similar way that Melissa is going to bring a lot of life to those around you and to you as well, that’s at www.mkt-21.com/start-a-blog. Thanks for listening. Chat with you in the next few days where I will continue our series of stories from our new bloggers.

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